We live in a paradoxical age where we are more connected than ever, yet we also face unprecedented levels of isolation and loneliness. This loneliness epidemic affects both believers and non-believers alike. Whether it’s temporary or prolonged, many Christians have experienced the deep, soul-piercing pain of loneliness. And while we often view loneliness as an enemy to destroy, Steve DeWitt challenges this perspective in his book, Loneliness: Don’t Hate It or Waste It, Redeem It.
DeWitt posits that through a biblical lens, loneliness can be a gift to embrace and redeem.
The book comprises ten chapters, each exploring different facets of loneliness. DeWitt starts with the origins of loneliness and moves on to distinguish between loneliness, aloneness, and solitude. Then, he delves into God’s purpose for our lonely moments and provides practical steps for redeeming it. The chapters are The Genesis of Loneliness, Alone, Not Lonely, God’s Purpose for Lonely Pain, Gospelize Your Loneliness, Give the Love You Long For, Hospitality of the Heart, Loneliness and Marital Status, Loneliness and Contentment, Loneliness and Leadership, and Tips on Redeeming Loneliness.
DeWitt offers profound insights throughout the book that reminded me of Elisabeth Elliot’s quote, “Loneliness is a wilderness, but through receiving it as a gift, accepting it from the hand of God, and offering it back to Him with thanksgiving, it may become a pathway to holiness, to glory, and to God Himself.”
The book’s central idea is that loneliness is a gift from God. It is a sensor that alerts us when something in our spiritual life needs attention. By embracing this signal, we can turn our loneliness into a journey toward deeper faith and connection with God. And a primary way to redeem it is through love.
While I found some parts of the book a bit too generic, I found some sections valuable. The chapters on “Loneliness and Marital Status” and “Loneliness and Contentment” were significant to me. Furthermore, DeWitt’s openness about his loneliness struggles, practical applications, and stories makes the book relatable and comforting.
Overall, this book is helpful to anyone looking to reframe their understanding of loneliness from a Christian perspective. DeWitt’s insights will encourage you to see loneliness not as a curse, but an opportunity for spiritual growth and deeper communion with God. I recommend it to anyone grappling with loneliness or those who support others through their lonely seasons.
Moody Publishers graciously gave me a copy for an honest review.
